Afraid of Being Hurt Again?

A major obstacle to overcome after a breakup is the fear of getting hurt again. When you are truly in love you open your heart up to your partner and let all of your defenses down. You share everything from laughter to your inner most emotions. But when your ex leaves you it can generate feelings of mistrust. What did you get for all of your love and devotion? It is not always easy to see the benefits of your ex relationships when they end in heartache.

The thing you have to remember is that every relationship helps us grow in some way. Even the worst situations help us realize what we expect from our romantic partners. But in most cases falling in love gives us so much more. Experiencing the excitement and anticipation of love gives us a taste of all the wonderful things that life has to offer. It enables us to understand our place as human beings and allows us to live out our natural instinct to find a compatible mate.

So even though love can be painful when you are not loved back, the simple fact that you have loved at all is special. If you overlook future opportunities because you are afraid to get hurt again then in reality you are only cheating yourself. The emotional fulfillment that love brings does not come without risk…anything that feels this good ever does. The key is understanding that our past relationships do not need to influence our future ones.