If you have been persistent in getting back with your ex then it is likely you have been going about the mission alone. Meanwhile he has been out with another girl, experiencing new things, and undoubtedly comparing you to her. Yes, you can argue that him coming back means his feelings for you were real…but what has this time away done to you?

Some relationships bounce back stronger after a breakup when both sides realize the grass is not always greener. However, the other possible outcome includes feelings of awkwardness and jealousy. How does it make you feel to know he needed a vacation from your relationship? Can you trust him to stick around this time?

In my opinion these are all important questions to consider before setting out to get your boyfriend back. If nothing else, you need to make him work harder to come back. The key here is playing hard to get as a flirting technique. Guys love a good challenge, and the longer you keep him at arm’s length the more certain you can be that he is in it for the long term.

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You don’t want to get exposed at saying one thing but doing another. For example, playing cool and confident around your ex is a good strategy for attracting her curiosity. However, as soon as she hears from her friends that you were crying on their shoulders she’ll have a hard time falling for your macho man facade.

I wouldn’t recommend talking openly about your ex to anyone except for maybe one or two of your closest friends. The fact is that the more you talk the greater chance you have of making a mistake. Rumors fly fast, and the last thing you need right now is having to apologize for something you said in the heat of the moment.

Unfortunately there are very few people you can trust when trying to get your ex back. Her friends are going to tell her everything you say, so don’t think for a second they are on your side. As for the guys, you never know who will try to ask her out when they hear she is available. Last but not least is her family…and who’s side do you think they’ll take?

The bottom line here is that public perception is your best weapon. You want to keep everyone guessing about your next move. If you need to cry or feel sorry for yourself then keep it confined to your bedroom. When you’re in social situations you should portray yourself as the trophy she let get away.

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So what can you do if you get caught stalking your ex boyfriend? Well, the first step is to simply be honest about your actions. The more you try to cover things up with lies and excuses the harder you are going to have to work to win your ex back. It is better to just admit your faults, apologize, and walk away from the whole mess for a while. Obviously your ex is going to be upset and it could be several weeks until they have calmed down enough to start talking with them again.

When it does come time to talk again, one of the best strategies is to inject some humor about yourself. Tell your ex how embarrassed you felt about your actions, and make fun of yourself for all the silly things you did. This should be easy since it really is embarrassing to get caught stalking! Make sure you tell them that the only reason you acted so stupid was because you still had strong feelings for them. Use the word “had” to suggest your feelings are different now. This will make them curious about how you feel now.

From there you will simply have to see how they react to your apology. If they laugh with you when you tell your side of the story then your odds are good for getting another chance. Play along and be patient with everything. Just be happy you are talking again for now, and slowly build up the levels of attraction over a few weeks. Your ex is going to need some time to trust you again after your erratic behavior.

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Safety and Security
Your girlfriend has to feel confident and secure around you. But this doesn’t mean you have to be a heavyweight boxer who knocks out every guy who looks at her. Security comes in many different forms. There is the emotional security of knowing she can share all of her thoughts with you. There is the trust she must have that you will always be honest and not take advantage of her love. Last but not least, you have to make her feel safe and confident in her life. Whether it is money concerns or family problems, you have to be the one she will lean on when times get tough.

Excitement and Adventure
It is easy to become complacent in a relationship and take tings for granted, but in order to keep the flames of passion burning strong you have to be spontaneous and exciting. We all have things in life we would like to try, and the longer your girlfriend wonders what life would be like without you the harder it is to get her back. Don’t rely on the same romantic efforts to work for every occasion. Mix things up and help her to expand her life experiences. Never let her get bored to the point she questions your relationship.

Achievement
The most fulfilling lives are filled with constant cycle of goal achievement. The most common goals are centered on school, career, family, and personal dreams. Find ways to help you girlfriend achieve her goals. Celebrate her achievements and give her encouragement to reach her expectations. In some cases she will only need your emotional support, but other times you might have to do more. In any case, she will slowly begin to believe she can do anything with you by her side. This is where your relationship will truly flourish.

Why did your ex girlfriend leave you? Most likely it is because you failed at one or more of these simple things. But instead of wasting time looking back on where you went wrong, work on ways to show her they you understand her needs and start to rebuild the trust you have lost.

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