You don’t want to get exposed at saying one thing but doing another. For example, playing cool and confident around your ex is a good strategy for attracting her curiosity. However, as soon as she hears from her friends that you were crying on their shoulders she’ll have a hard time falling for your macho man facade.

I wouldn’t recommend talking openly about your ex to anyone except for maybe one or two of your closest friends. The fact is that the more you talk the greater chance you have of making a mistake. Rumors fly fast, and the last thing you need right now is having to apologize for something you said in the heat of the moment.

Unfortunately there are very few people you can trust when trying to get your ex back. Her friends are going to tell her everything you say, so don’t think for a second they are on your side. As for the guys, you never know who will try to ask her out when they hear she is available. Last but not least is her family…and who’s side do you think they’ll take?

The bottom line here is that public perception is your best weapon. You want to keep everyone guessing about your next move. If you need to cry or feel sorry for yourself then keep it confined to your bedroom. When you’re in social situations you should portray yourself as the trophy she let get away.

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The best advice for your first encounter after breaking up is to keep things simple, short, and friendly. You don’t need to recite an award-winning poem or discuss any of the reasons your relationship failed. Instead you just want to open the lines of communication for the future.

The one thing your ex boyfriend is going to feel is a lack of trust for you…no matter what the terms of your break up were. They are going to wonder how you will react to seeing them for the first time. This is why you want to keep things friendly and positive. If you start to bring up the past then they will feel uncomfortable, which might cause them to avoid you down the road.

As strange as it may seem, it can work well to just walk up to them and say “Hi”. This almost always commands a response back, and it immediately breaks down the initial awkwardness of the situation. Follow up your greeting with small talk about work or school and then cut things off by saying “I’ve got to run. Talk to you soon!”.

Now in some cases your boyfriend is still going to be bitter about your past actions (especially if you cheated on him). This is why I would try not to approach them for at least 10 days after the break up…and sometimes longer. Speaking to them is a big first step and you need it go well so don’t jump in if the timing is bad.

As much as it is a big deal to speak to your ex for the first time, it really does not have to be difficult. The key is to keep your conversation short and friendly so they are not intimidated when they see you next time.

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