Think about some of the biggest franchises in the video game world: Madden Football, Call of Duty, Halo, etc. Each sells thousands of copies of every time a new version is released. Consequently, thousands of old versions suddenly become almost worthless. They get tossed into a drawer, never to be played again, or they die a slow death as a used game on store shelves.

So what can you learn from the video game industry that will help you get your ex girlfriend back? The lesson here is that we will always love Madden Football, but our excitement gets renewed each year with the latest release. The core game play never changes much, but having new graphics and options gives the “same old game” an addicting new feel.

Picture coming home to last year’s Call of Duty after playing the new one at your friend’s house. Sure it is comfortable because you already know the boards and secrets, but the excitement level is minimal. All you can think about is how to get your hands on the new version.

Your ex girlfriend still likes you for the same reasons you still like last year’s game – it’s a sentimental attachment. The problem is she has seen the new version out there somewhere. He has some of the same characteristics as you…but he offers more features and excitement.

Bottom line: It is time to upgrade yourself if you want to win her back.

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But did you know the secrets to attracting your ex girlfriend are easy to discover? It all goes back to the first weeks and months of your relationship. What was it that brought you together in the first place? It is easy to say there was a physical attraction, but in reality that only took you so far. There had to be a personality element involved or else you would not have gotten past the first couple of dates.

Think back to your time together and try to picture all of the things you said or did that made her smile. Also think about the things you loved to do together. These are the secrets to getting her back in your life. The more you can replicate the good times from the past, the better your chances will be in the future.

Now you will need to spin all of these ideas in a creative way. Just making her laugh for example is not going to get the job done. Try to repackage the ideas in a way that will call her attention to you. For example, if you were good at making her laugh then maybe a friendly/funny card or text would help you get your foot in the door. You aren’t going to make her fall in love right away, but anything that takes away from the stress and animosity is a good thing.

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There is a competitive side in everyone…that internal desire to be right. It is a natural reactions that ultimately helps us be successful in achieving goals. But when you argue with your partner and both sides are fighting to win the result is you both lose.

Think about the arguments that you’ve had with your ex girlfriend where you “won”. What happened afterwards? It probably took a few days for everyone to cool down – right? So although you proved your point, your relationship took a hit. You raised the defense level of your ex and likely lost some of her trust as well.

When it comes to arguments, the only way to truly win is to lose. Admitting your faults tends to lower the defenses of your partner, which allows them to see how silly the fight really was. This can open up the channels of communication, and often times will let you both laugh about making such a big deal over nothing.

Now I should add that being a push-over won’t help you gain any respect, so you have walk a fine line when sensitive issues come up. Stand by your moral code and defend it as necessary, but when it comes to things like “who forgot to wash the dishes” you might find more peace by taking the higher road.

Lastly, keep in mind that presentation is everything. They way you engage your ex about problems sets the precedent for their reaction. Instead of coming out the gate firing away, keep your composure and work on a solution together. For example, mentioning that dirty dishes are a pet peeve of yours might be enough to make your point without causing a firestorm. It is all about the way you communicate.

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Sure you might get lucky and beg your way back for a second chance. Perhaps you can even lie about your faults and con your way back. But the fact is your ex is not going to be at peace with the decision unless she makes it herself.

If you look at things this way then I think you’ll agree that the best approach is to focus on becoming attractive to her. Somewhere down the line she lost this feeling about you. It could be a physical thing, but more likely it is an emotional obstacle. Only you would know, but whatever you had or did it is not there anymore.

Love, attraction and passion are feelings that can overcome any boundary. When you feel strong enough about someone then you forgive much more easily. Love accepts the bad with the good, but when the love fades the bad things become more distracting.

Find a way to attract your ex back. If you resurrect her feelings of passion for you then the rest will come easy.

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If any of this sounds familiar to your situation ask yourself how you feel about the changes. This is going to be the best place to begin after getting dumped. Can you handle the changes life has brought to your relationship? Do you see you and your girlfriend ever working things out under the current circumstances?

These are important questions to answer before trying to get your ex girlfriend back. If one side refuses to make sacrifices then the outlook is not good. If you are the one set in your ways then you have no choice but to accept the outcome. However, if your ex is being stubborn you can try to change their mind. This of course will not be easy, but if you can find out what your ex really wants you might be able to coerce them back.

People tend to look at breakups as an action that occurred at a specific day or time. In reality though a breakup is the end result of one or more problems that were never solved. This is why there are no simple fixes for a breakup…they are all different in some way.

Look back at the changes you and your ex girlfriend have been through lately. How were they handled? Is it possible that something could have been done to satisfy both sides? Even if you blame her for everything you’re going to have to satisfy her needs if you want to win her back.

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But how can you get her to miss you like crazy? The simple answer is by disappearing from her life and creating curiosity about what you are up to. This isn’t necessarily the easiest plan to pull off, but it is very effective for changing her feelings about breaking up with you.

The first thing you need to do is get out of the house and go make a name for yourself. Reconnect with old friends, get more involved in your social circles, and start creating your own fun. Don’t wait to be invited to a party or event…come up with your own ideas and invite the people you know. Take advantage of every opportunity to be seen. Helping friends with their own projects is a great place to begin if you need ideas.

Now, while you are out having fun you want to make sure your ex girlfriend sees or hears about your activities. Facebook is one way to do this. Even if she has dropped you from her “friends” you can still find your way onto her page by appearing in other friends pictures and conversations. Remember that the more activities you participate in the better your chances are to show up on her radar.

If you do all this right you will build up a rock-star persona that will make your ex girlfriend think she was crazy for letting you go. The key for you is to play “hard to get” for a while and make her miss you to the point that she will ask you out!

You might have your doubts as to how effective this plan can be. Most people never put in enough effort for it to impact their ex’s feelings. It is an all-or-nothing type strategy. Unless you achieve the highest levels of social prowess within the common friends you and your ex have then the results will be less effective. But those who do establish a high level of popularity will discover a whole new world of opportunity. Perhaps even enough to leave their ex behind.

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One easy way to identify your short-comings is to look at the things most women want from a man. Not all of them will apply to your specific situation and some of them are difficult to achieve, but keep these ideas in mind as you try to win your ex back:

(Note: this is a random collection of survey findings I gathered from around the internet for entertainment purposes only.)

- The majority of women want to date a college educated man.
- The “ideal man” is about 6 foot tall and weighs 175 pounds.
- Over 60% list physical fitness as an important quality in a dating partner.
- Only 28% of women DO NOT care how much their man earns.
- Women think men look most appealing in designer jeans with a white t-shirt.
- Women rate desire for home and children much higher in importance than men.
- Only 1% of women would date a man who hates pets.
- Traits that women hate in men: hiding emotions, dishonesty, selfishness, and abusiveness.
- Most common reasons women ended a relationship: lack of commitment, cheating, and selfishness.

Maybe you see some things on this list that you can work on to save your relationship (or your next one). While this was a very simplified look at the things women want from men, chances are your ex girlfriend has spent time thinking some of them. Use this to your advantage when you are trying to win back their attention.

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One easy way to identify your short-comings is to look at the things most women want from a man. Not all of them will apply to your specific situation and some of them are difficult to achieve, but keep these ideas in mind as you try to win your ex back:

(Note: this is a random collection of survey findings I gathered from around the internet for entertainment purposes only.)

- The majority of women want to date a college educated man.
- The “ideal man” is about 6 foot tall and weighs 175 pounds.
- Over 60% list physical fitness as an important quality in a dating partner.
- Only 28% of women DO NOT care how much their man earns.
- Women think men look most appealing in designer jeans with a white t-shirt.
- Women rate desire for home and children much higher in importance than men.
- Only 1% of women would date a man who hates pets.
- Traits that women hate in men: hiding emotions, dishonesty, selfishness, and abusiveness.
- Most common reasons women ended a relationship: lack of commitment, cheating, and selfishness.

Maybe you see some things on this list that you can work on to save your relationship (or your next one). While this was a very simplified look at the things women want from men, chances are your ex girlfriend has spent time thinking some of them. Use this to your advantage when you are trying to win back their attention.

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Here’s the deal on breakups…nine times out of ten they are the result of a festering problem. It is up to you to figure out what the problem was, but I can tell you that boredom, money, and quality time are some of the common ones. Now somewhere along the way your ex girlfriend got sick of waiting for you to fix the problem. Maybe she talked to you about…or perhaps she was justing waiting for you to get off your butt and make a change. When nothing happened she sent you a final warning by leaving.

Obviously you missed the boat on her needs the first time, so now is your chance to make amends. Yes it is going to be harder this time around, but in reality that’s your fault. The real question is…are you ready to accept the challenge? Do you want to change your lifestyle in ways that will better accommodate her needs?

Every girl has a unique set of dreams and desires. If you truly love your ex then it is up to you to satisfy these wants. Maybe she wants a guy with a good job and plan for the future. Then again, maybe she just wants someone to make her feel safe and confident. Whatever her needs, you have the power to make it happen…but only if you want to.

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So where does that leave you? If you love your ex then you are probably hesitant to close any open doors. After all, a small chance of dating her again is better than no chance at all. It is easy for your friends to say “let her go” when they don’t think of her every minute like you do. Their advice is logical, but there is one big problem with playing for second place – you have no bargaining power!

To succeed in this game you need to think like a poker player. It is a winner-take-all situation. Yes you have to win with the cards you are dealt which is uncontrollable. However a savvy player can bluff their opponent into making a mistake.

Here’s how this translates into sharing your girlfriends love. It is okay to play by her rules in the beginning, but at some point you will have to shake things up. This is where the risk comes in. You will have to make her choose one of you…and there is a chance it won’t be you. Nonetheless you must not get comfortable balancing both of your hearts.

As time goes on you need to unexpectedly show up at places where you know she is with him. You should call at times when you know they are together. Most importantly, you need her to know that you are living life to the fullest when she is not around. If you do all of this well, you will become the focus of her thoughts (be them good or bad). Keep doing this until she is forced to pick one of you to maintain her sanity. The only catch is she might choose him.

It is here when you will learn who she loves the most.

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