In fact, if your relationship has reached a point where your girlfriend wants to separate, then my advice to you is to agree to the breakup. Your biggest mistake would be to try and persuade your ex to stay in the relationship and not to leave you. This psychological strategy is recommended because it surprises your ex, and makes them begin to wonder exactly what is going on.

Another benefit of mutually walking away is that it eliminates one of the biggest barriers to getting your ex back. This has to do with the law of attraction. As you may already know, humans tend to want the things they can’t have and yet often fail to appreciate the things they already have. You can use this to your advantage by making it appear your ex girlfriend does not have a choice in breaking up with you.

Agree to the breakup, let her go and wish them well. From there you need to stay calm and keep your emotions in-check. Yes you are feeling sad, but you have to find a way to deal it in a way that will help you rekindle your relationship in the future. The best place to start is by thinking about what went wrong and identifying what it is your ex really wants.

I know it sounds like a contradiction to let your ex girlfriend go…only to try a win them back later. But if you can see how valuable this strategy is to the psychology of your relationship then you will have no problem trying to capitalize on what appears to be a bad situation.

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Let Her Breakup with You?

When your ex asks for some space or time apart it means they are overwhelmed. It may or may not have anything to do with your relationship. Sometimes family problems or other stressful situations can strain a relationship. Everyone handles stress in different ways, and if your ex GF wants some time alone then you should oblige her.

It is during this time apart that you have to be very careful. As much as you want to help her you need to keep in mind that it is easier to make things worse at this stage. When someone wants time alone they are going to be extra sensitive to their surroundings. The more you try to sneak in their life the more irritable they will become. Before you know it they will consider you a stalker and do everything they can to avoid you.

Love can make us do some dumb things. Perhaps the dumbest thing is when it causes us to lose our patience. When this happens our natural reaction is to fight to control the situation. When you are dealing with a break up it makes you want to control your ex girlfriend. You might think you are giving them space by not seeing them everyday, but if you keep calling or texting them you are still trying to control their actions…even if you don’t mean for it to be that way.

Does this mean you have to disappear from their life? No, but you must allow them time to get their own issues under control. Gently remind them periodically that you are around if they need any help, but other than that you should let them come back to you. Chances are they will miss you after a period of time, but you can’t speed it up by forcing the issue. Focus on fixing your own broken heart first before you try to fix theirs.

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Stop Trying to Control Your Ex Girlfriend

The key to using compliments effectively is to make sure they are honest and not too aggressive. Don’t compliment her hair, for example, if you don’t actually notice any change in it. You’ll also want to avoid sexual-type comments that may be offensive. If your not careful then you might end up with a slap to the face instead of a smile!

Here are some compliment ideas to get you back on speaking terms with your Ex GF…

“I really miss talking with you. You’re the only girl I could talk to all day and night.”

“It’s not fair that you break up with me, make feel like dirt, and yet you get more beautiful every day.”

“I know you are mad at me, but I really miss your smile and laugh. If you don’t smile right now then I will be forced to do my magical happy dance until you do.” (note: be prepared to do some dancing

“How do you do that? Every time I’m near you I forget all of the bad things in my life.”

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Do You Really Need Your Ex Girlfriend?

It is unlikely that your friends know how you feel about your ex girlfriend and this can make it hard to hang out with them. However, the more you expose yourself to social situations the better you will feel. Yes it will be hard to enjoy yourself in a room where everyone is laughing and joking when you feel so sad. It will also be difficult to hold back your emotions and not talk about your ex. This is part of the healing process…and unless you force yourself to move forward it will take you twice as long to feel better.

So how can your friends help you get you ex girlfriend back? It’s simple really…they will help you go back to being you. Remember that you met most of your buddies before your relationship. The confidence and personality you had back then was partly the result of their influence on you. They helped to bring out traits in you that your Ex GF found attractive. Reconnecting with your friends will help these traits resurface.

If anything else, being around people you like during this time of confusion will be beneficial. It is not always easy to remember what “fun” used to feel like. Getting back in touch with your roots will remind you of the things you enjoyed. This will improve your mood and ultimately change the ways others perceive you. In a perfect world your ex will also notice the return of the “old you” and remember what she is missing.

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