Since the first words are often the hardest, I’ve put together a short list of innocent conversation starters you can use on your ex boyfriend. Note that the focus of each example is to get your EX BF to open up and communicate with you.

“I thought of you yesterday when I saw [insert a news story]. What did you think?”

“Hey [name]! It has been a while… what have you been up to?”

“I know things were crazy after our breakup – I’m sorry about all that. I just wanted to let you know it is all behind us now and I feel much better about everything.”

“I saw you [insert a recent achievement of theirs]. Congratulations! How does it feel?”

“Can you keep a secret? I just found out that [insert compelling information]. What should I/we/they do about it?”

These ideas should get your mind moving in the right direction. It really doesn’t matter what you say as long as you keep it honest and format it in such a way that your ex will have to respond.

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If you have been persistent in getting back with your ex then it is likely you have been going about the mission alone. Meanwhile he has been out with another girl, experiencing new things, and undoubtedly comparing you to her. Yes, you can argue that him coming back means his feelings for you were real…but what has this time away done to you?

Some relationships bounce back stronger after a breakup when both sides realize the grass is not always greener. However, the other possible outcome includes feelings of awkwardness and jealousy. How does it make you feel to know he needed a vacation from your relationship? Can you trust him to stick around this time?

In my opinion these are all important questions to consider before setting out to get your boyfriend back. If nothing else, you need to make him work harder to come back. The key here is playing hard to get as a flirting technique. Guys love a good challenge, and the longer you keep him at arm’s length the more certain you can be that he is in it for the long term.

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The answer to questions like these is “yes”…but your ex boyfriend is reflecting on your relationship in a different way. Instead of longing for the past, he is thinking about “what could have been”. You see, when your BF dumped you it was because his attraction to you had disappeared. What was fun and exciting back in the day has since become boring and predictable.

Now when he thinks about you or compares you to another girl it is in terms of your positives AND negatives. Yes, there are several things he still loves about you, but somewhere the cons outweighed the pros. If you can find away to re-balance his perception of you then the attraction will grow back.

Believe it or not, the fastest way to do this is not necessarily by fixing the negatives. In most scenarios you can succeed by drawing attention to your positives as long as you have something new to offer. There needs to be a new challenge for him to accept…a new reason to love you even more this time. Think about your life as a whole and change your expectations. Stop settling for average when you know there is so much more you want to do!

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You see, at some point in the past you have already proved successful in attracting your ex. This is how your relationship began. Of course only you know what that magical formula was back then, but it shouldn’t be too hard to figure out. In many cases there was a physical attraction that got the ball rolling, and yet this was likely not the only contributor. At some point you had a conversation, went out on dates, etc. What was it about those moments that was so special?

Go ahead and make yourself a list of things you think your ex bf liked about you. It can be anything from the way you smelled to your favorite television shows. When you are finished, stare at that list until you can think of ways to lure him back into your life. And I’m not talking about falling in love. Start with baby steps…try to get him on the phone for starters!

Now the last thing you need to do with your list is be honest with yourself. Are there some things he liked that have changed in the recent past? If so, then you need to try and fix those. The power of attraction can be hard to control. Your goal should be to bring as many good things from the past back into your current life.

Last but not least, don’t forget to keep him guessing. Attraction is always stronger for things we cannot have or don’t understand. There has to be a mysterious new element involved to really grab your ex’s attention. This isn’t always easy to define, but no one knows your ex bf like you do!

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