I need some space… This is not a good time for me… Things are moving too fast…

If you really read through these lies you get one simple message: he is not attracted to you anymore.

How can I say this with such certainty? Because real love is never contained by boundaries. Real love makes you work harder when things get tougher. Real love makes you pursue what you can’t have.

Anyone who uses the excuses listed above is a quitter. They’ve run into a dilemma and they don’t know how to deal with it. Instead of working it out, or telling you the truth, their solution is to just run away. This isn’t going to make you feel any better but sadly it is the truth.

The best thing you can do is gain motivation from the lies. Show your ex boyfriend what he is missing. Prove that your heart is worth more than the easy way out. If he won’t fight through obstacles to be with you then take the higher road.

When you succeed without him he will be there waiting for another chance. At that point you will be the one in control.

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All Breakup Excuses are Lies!

When your ex asks for some space or time apart it means they are overwhelmed. It may or may not have anything to do with your relationship. Sometimes family problems or other stressful situations can strain a relationship. Everyone handles stress in different ways, and if your ex GF wants some time alone then you should oblige her.

It is during this time apart that you have to be very careful. As much as you want to help her you need to keep in mind that it is easier to make things worse at this stage. When someone wants time alone they are going to be extra sensitive to their surroundings. The more you try to sneak in their life the more irritable they will become. Before you know it they will consider you a stalker and do everything they can to avoid you.

Love can make us do some dumb things. Perhaps the dumbest thing is when it causes us to lose our patience. When this happens our natural reaction is to fight to control the situation. When you are dealing with a break up it makes you want to control your ex girlfriend. You might think you are giving them space by not seeing them everyday, but if you keep calling or texting them you are still trying to control their actions…even if you don’t mean for it to be that way.

Does this mean you have to disappear from their life? No, but you must allow them time to get their own issues under control. Gently remind them periodically that you are around if they need any help, but other than that you should let them come back to you. Chances are they will miss you after a period of time, but you can’t speed it up by forcing the issue. Focus on fixing your own broken heart first before you try to fix theirs.

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Stop Trying to Control Your Ex Girlfriend