The first thing you should realize is that girls often go out with the first guy who is nice to them after a break up. They are tired of all the fighting and name-calling that likely occurred at the end of your relationship. So the first “normal guy” that steps up to them has a good shot at landing a few dates. This doesn’t mean they are in love with them. What they really wanted was something different for a change. Keep that in mind when you are sizing up the other guy.

The key to stealing your ex back is to make sure you are getting attention from them. Now is the time to always look your best and go out of your way to make a good impression. If she isn’t talking to you then get closer with her friends. Change your hairstyle, start working out, and invest in some new clothes. Make her see that you are still a hot commodity in the dating world.

At some point you are going to have to talk your way back into her life. The best approach is play it cool and totally ignore the other guy. If she says something about him then blow it off and redirect the conversation back to how much you miss her company. Tell her that she was the best girlfriend you ever had and let her know the door is still open. You don’t want to beg for anything. Instead you need to leave her wanting more. The harder you make it for her to come back the more attraction you will build.

Getting your ex girlfriend back from another guy isn’t any different from winning her back if she was single. If anything, it might be a positive because some girls want to take a break after the end of a relationship. If your ex if dating someone else then at least you know she is looking for a partner. Now you just need to turn her attention back to you

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Win Her Back from Another Guy

There is a competitive side in everyone…that internal desire to be right. It is a natural reactions that ultimately helps us be successful in achieving goals. But when you argue with your partner and both sides are fighting to win the result is you both lose.

Think about the arguments that you’ve had with your ex girlfriend where you “won”. What happened afterwards? It probably took a few days for everyone to cool down – right? So although you proved your point, your relationship took a hit. You raised the defense level of your ex and likely lost some of her trust as well.

When it comes to arguments, the only way to truly win is to lose. Admitting your faults tends to lower the defenses of your partner, which allows them to see how silly the fight really was. This can open up the channels of communication, and often times will let you both laugh about making such a big deal over nothing.

Now I should add that being a push-over won’t help you gain any respect, so you have walk a fine line when sensitive issues come up. Stand by your moral code and defend it as necessary, but when it comes to things like “who forgot to wash the dishes” you might find more peace by taking the higher road.

Lastly, keep in mind that presentation is everything. They way you engage your ex about problems sets the precedent for their reaction. Instead of coming out the gate firing away, keep your composure and work on a solution together. For example, mentioning that dirty dishes are a pet peeve of yours might be enough to make your point without causing a firestorm. It is all about the way you communicate.

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The 2 Sides of Arguing with Your Ex