Win Back Your Ex Love » communicate https://winbackyourexlove.com Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 17 Jan 2023 22:59:57 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 How to Start a Conversation with Your Ex BF https://winbackyourexlove.com/how-to-start-a-conversation-with-your-ex-bf/ https://winbackyourexlove.com/how-to-start-a-conversation-with-your-ex-bf/#comments Wed, 29 Feb 2012 18:48:00 +0000 admin http://winbackyourexlove.com/how-to-start-a-conversation-with-your-ex-bf/ Figuring out what to say to your ex boyfriend is not always easy. On the one hand you are dying to know what they have been thinking about your future, but on the other hand you understand that acting desperate will just scare them away.

Since the first words are often the hardest, I’ve put together a short list of innocent conversation starters you can use on your ex boyfriend. Note that the focus of each example is to get your EX BF to open up and communicate with you.

“I thought of you yesterday when I saw [insert a news story]. What did you think?”

“Hey [name]! It has been a while… what have you been up to?”

“I know things were crazy after our breakup – I’m sorry about all that. I just wanted to let you know it is all behind us now and I feel much better about everything.”

“I saw you [insert a recent achievement of theirs]. Congratulations! How does it feel?”

“Can you keep a secret? I just found out that [insert compelling information]. What should I/we/they do about it?”

These ideas should get your mind moving in the right direction. It really doesn’t matter what you say as long as you keep it honest and format it in such a way that your ex will have to respond.

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]]> https://winbackyourexlove.com/how-to-start-a-conversation-with-your-ex-bf/feed/ 0 The 2 Sides of Arguing with Your Ex https://winbackyourexlove.com/the-2-sides-of-arguing-with-your-ex/ https://winbackyourexlove.com/the-2-sides-of-arguing-with-your-ex/#comments Fri, 26 Aug 2011 01:41:56 +0000 aperio http://winbackyourexlove.com/the-2-sides-of-arguing-with-your-ex/ Although break ups happen for a variety of different reasons, there is usually a core disagreement that brings on the tidal wave of strong emotions. It might be about money, time spent together, or even commitment. No matter what it is, the arguments that ensue go a long way to determining the fate of the relationship.

There is a competitive side in everyone…that internal desire to be right. It is a natural reactions that ultimately helps us be successful in achieving goals. But when you argue with your partner and both sides are fighting to win the result is you both lose.

Think about the arguments that you’ve had with your ex girlfriend where you “won”. What happened afterwards? It probably took a few days for everyone to cool down – right? So although you proved your point, your relationship took a hit. You raised the defense level of your ex and likely lost some of her trust as well.

When it comes to arguments, the only way to truly win is to lose. Admitting your faults tends to lower the defenses of your partner, which allows them to see how silly the fight really was. This can open up the channels of communication, and often times will let you both laugh about making such a big deal over nothing.

Now I should add that being a push-over won’t help you gain any respect, so you have walk a fine line when sensitive issues come up. Stand by your moral code and defend it as necessary, but when it comes to things like “who forgot to wash the dishes” you might find more peace by taking the higher road.

Lastly, keep in mind that presentation is everything. They way you engage your ex about problems sets the precedent for their reaction. Instead of coming out the gate firing away, keep your composure and work on a solution together. For example, mentioning that dirty dishes are a pet peeve of yours might be enough to make your point without causing a firestorm. It is all about the way you communicate.

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