For the past five years I have tried to provide readers with a unique perspective on ex boyfriend issues. Where everyone else writes general advice, my goal was always to dig a little deeper into specific topics. I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way to win back love, but there are certainly plenty of things you can do to improve your chances. However, what works for you might very fail for the next person, so the best advice is to customize your own plan for fixing a breakup.

While I am officially retiring from writing new material, I will still be maintaining this blog in hopes that it continues to help some of you. The principles of love are still very much the same as they were thousands of years ago. You don’t need magic or trickery to get your ex boyfriend back. If you focus on attracting them back, then everything will work out for the right reasons.

It is not an easy road to work your way back into someone’s life. Hopefully this “best of list” I put together will steer you in the right direction.

How to Embrace Your Breakup

Your Old Relationship Died

3 Things Your Ex Boyfriend is Looking For

Why Confidence and Composure Matters

How to Start a Conversation with Your Ex BF

Tips to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Has a New Girlfriend

When Will Your Ex Boyfriend Come Back?

Leave Him Wanting More

Changing Roles to Get Your Ex BF Back

Making It Easy to Make Up

Best Wishes,

Elliot

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My Best Ex Boyfriend Advice

I need some space… This is not a good time for me… Things are moving too fast…

If you really read through these lies you get one simple message: he is not attracted to you anymore.

How can I say this with such certainty? Because real love is never contained by boundaries. Real love makes you work harder when things get tougher. Real love makes you pursue what you can’t have.

Anyone who uses the excuses listed above is a quitter. They’ve run into a dilemma and they don’t know how to deal with it. Instead of working it out, or telling you the truth, their solution is to just run away. This isn’t going to make you feel any better but sadly it is the truth.

The best thing you can do is gain motivation from the lies. Show your ex boyfriend what he is missing. Prove that your heart is worth more than the easy way out. If he won’t fight through obstacles to be with you then take the higher road.

When you succeed without him he will be there waiting for another chance. At that point you will be the one in control.

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All Breakup Excuses are Lies!

Here’s the deal… the only way to legitimately get your ex back is through attraction and curiosity. Quoting sad breakup songs on twitter is not attractive, and it certainly leaves no mystery to the way you feel. In short, negative emotional posts get negative results. No one wants to hang out with the depressed girl, so don’t think you are winning any hearts back by reminiscing about better days.

Facebook, twitter and all of the other social networks can actually work in your favor if you use them the right way. Show your ex boyfriend that you are still living life without them. Post pictures of events you attended and tag friends when you laugh about yesterday’s party.

Remember that positive posts get positive results. We all like to read about the successes of our friends on social sites. This is how you gain a strong following of supporters who can improve your online reputation. You don’t have to message your ex to make your point. Even if they un-friend you they will still see you appear on other friends pages. Just make sure what they see will make them miss you!

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Yes, Your Ex Boyfriend Follows Your Social Profile

Since the first words are often the hardest, I’ve put together a short list of innocent conversation starters you can use on your ex boyfriend. Note that the focus of each example is to get your EX BF to open up and communicate with you.

“I thought of you yesterday when I saw [insert a news story]. What did you think?”

“Hey [name]! It has been a while… what have you been up to?”

“I know things were crazy after our breakup – I’m sorry about all that. I just wanted to let you know it is all behind us now and I feel much better about everything.”

“I saw you [insert a recent achievement of theirs]. Congratulations! How does it feel?”

“Can you keep a secret? I just found out that [insert compelling information]. What should I/we/they do about it?”

These ideas should get your mind moving in the right direction. It really doesn’t matter what you say as long as you keep it honest and format it in such a way that your ex will have to respond.

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How to Start a Conversation with Your Ex BF

To help you get started I’m going to list some common things men look for in a partner. See if they match any of the breakup excuses your ex gave you…

Looks
This is one subject that many avoid, but the fact is a lot of men do consider looks an important part of dating. Beauty is subjective and that’s why you need to play off the things you know about your ex boyfriend. An easy way to get a feel for their preference is to think about their favorite celebrities. How do they wear their hair? What kind of style do they have? What roles do they play in movies?

Fun Factor
Are you fun to be around? This is another tough question to ask yourself. Here’s the thing though, dating is about sharing and enjoying each others time. There should be lots of smiles, laughs and memorable moments. If you can’t remember the last time you and your ex laughed out loud together then this is a problem. Of course not everyone is comedian, but it shouldn’t be hard to make your partner smile.

Individualism
An often overlooked secret to successful relationships is a supportive partner. Giving your man the opportunity to explore his dreams is so important. Did you support him when he said he wanted to start a business? How about when he wanted to go out with the guys? We all need to express our individuality, and if that need goes unfulfilled then we will find another outlet.

These three things are only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to your ex boyfriend’s needs. Heck, these may not even represent his needs at all! But one thing is certain… somewhere along the line your ex wasn’t getting what he wanted. Identify and fix those issues if you want another shot with him.

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3 Things Your Ex Boyfriend is Looking For

Here are my favorite angles for defusing these situations…

Laugh Along
This is probably the least preferred but it really can lower his guard. If he wants to look cool around his friends then just let him. When the jokes start flying laugh right along with them. Want to take it to another level? Add to the fun by making fun of yourself. Over time this technique will eliminate the “challenge” of putting you down. Obviously this is not for the easily-offended but if you can’t beat ‘em then join ‘em.

Conversation Bombs
No matter how long you dated your ex-boyfriend you likely have some dirt on them. The next time they play the jerk card consider throwing stones right back at them. How does this help you get back together? You might be surprised at the results. One of the big reasons people breakup is because one person is bored with the other. Showing a little spunk can be just the ticket for sparking an attraction.

Disappear
One of the oldest tricks in the book for getting an ex back is what they call “no contact.” The theory here is your ex will never miss you if you are always around. If you don’t like the way they are treating you then a vacation from your ex might be the best solution. If you go this route then you must commit to it. No phone calls, no emails, no contact. In a perfect situation your ex will reach out to you after they’ve had time to reflect on their bad behavior.

Good Luck – Elliot

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Getting Past the Jerk

I’ve made the argument before that nothing is impossible when it comes to winning back love. However, you do have to set yourself up for success. That begins with loving life and radiating a sense of confidence, both of which are impossible to do when you dwell on the negative.

It is funny how good relationships can look after getting dumped. We think about all the laughs and adventures we had with our ex. For some reason the negative times never make it into those memories and yet they were still there. Coming to grips with the fact that your relationships wasn’t perfect is one step towards embracing your breakup, there are so many stories on TikTok of girls emrbracing their breakup and trying to engage with other girls to help them through it, for the ones interested in sharing the Social Boosting tools to get more viewers and get the stories out there for more.

There are plenty of other positive things you can do while waiting for your ex boyfriend to come back around. The best ideas include the goals and interests you have put on the back-burner the past few years. It will take time to get to know yourself again, but it won’t take long to enjoy the experience.

There is always a brighter way to look at things, and doing so will significantly enhance how others look at you. Use the time after your breakup to expand your boundaries. Relationships can confine us as we get trapped into a routine. I have a favorite quote I use when feeling “trapped” by stress and frustration…

“Do one thing every day that scares you.”
- Eleanor Roosevelt

Hope this helps

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How to Embrace Your Breakup

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The Real Secret to Making Your Ex Boyfriend Want You

If you have been persistent in getting back with your ex then it is likely you have been going about the mission alone. Meanwhile he has been out with another girl, experiencing new things, and undoubtedly comparing you to her. Yes, you can argue that him coming back means his feelings for you were real…but what has this time away done to you?

Some relationships bounce back stronger after a breakup when both sides realize the grass is not always greener. However, the other possible outcome includes feelings of awkwardness and jealousy. How does it make you feel to know he needed a vacation from your relationship? Can you trust him to stick around this time?

In my opinion these are all important questions to consider before setting out to get your boyfriend back. If nothing else, you need to make him work harder to come back. The key here is playing hard to get as a flirting technique. Guys love a good challenge, and the longer you keep him at arm’s length the more certain you can be that he is in it for the long term.

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Can You Handle Your Ex Boyfriend’s Affair?

As simple as it sounds, the best way to get your ex boyfriend back under these circumstances is to simply be yourself and enjoy life. You shouldn’t waste time trying to size up your competition because they really have nothing to do with you and your ex. In fact, you can make a bigger statement about yourself by ignoring her or politely introducing yourself.

Keep in mind that your main objective here is to steal your ex back. To be successful you’ll need to show your ex everything they are missing by not being with you. This is why you want be seen smiling and having fun with your best friends. Facebook is a good tool for showing off your social status activities. Post regular updates and pictures of yourself as if you are having the time of your life. The idea of course is to prove you don’t need a boyfriend to have fun.

Don’t shy away from interacting with your ex during this time. Remember that you wan them to notice you. Bump into them whenever possible and maintain a positive and slightly flirtatious tone of conversation. This can really mess with their mind because they expect you to be bitter and depressed after your breakup.

If you can build up your social popularity while keeping your ex’s attention you will eventually generate some attraction from them. When this starts to happen you want to drag it out and keep them wanting more. Don’t fall for the temptation of hooking up with your ex before they have committed to you. Your best asset is being the one thing they can’t have. If you give-in too early then you will become nothing more than their hookup call.

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