Most of the things that people buy are designed to help them NOW. Only a small percentage of our purchases are made for the long term. With that in mind, you want to target emotions that will bring immediate benefits to your ex girlfriend.

This includes emotions like…
excitement
surprise
hopeful
anticipation
trust
admiration
serenity
curiosity
ecstasy

These are high-range emotions that can completely change a person’s thoughts and opinions. They are also somewhat addictive, so the more you can provide improves the odds they will come back again.

On the flip side are negative emotions that we all try to avoid…
anger
frustration
fear
disgust
boredom

Obviously if you are trying to sell a “better life” using these emotions you are going to struggle. This is why taking the pathetic approach to getting a girl back never works out.

Prove to your ex that you can make her feel the highest of highs when it comes to emotions. We all want to feel good inside and if you become the provider of good feelings then she will stick around.

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This can be a golden opportunity for you to make a positive impression on her if you plan accordingly. The hard part is planting the seeds for success long before your time comes. Basically you have two roadblocks in your way… trust and desire. These feelings need to be in place when her new love disintegrates.

How do you nurture these feelings after a breakup? The most effective way is to just be there for her. It sounds easy but of course there is a catch. You have to play it straight without pushing your feelings on her AND stay away from the friends zone. Being honest from the start is your best option.

Sometime after the break up, when things have cooled down enough to call her, tell her that you understand why she needed a break. Be supportive of the break up (even if you have to lie about it). Let your ex know that you still love her but you promise to give her the space she needs. Remind her that if she ever needs anything she can call you anytime… and then walk away.

This simple strategy will rebuild her confidence in you and create some mystery as to where your paths will cross again. Stay in her thoughts by being friendly from a distance. Let her experiment with the new boyfriend. This will be difficult I know, but keep in mind that you are setting yourself up for another chance down the road.

The time will come when your ex girlfriend needs someone to talk to. It might be when her new boyfriend dumps her, or it could be a different life-changing event where she needs to lean on a trusted source. If you do the right things she will look to you for support… and the opportunity to get her back will be there.

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Obviously this doesn’t help you feel any better after being dumped, but what if there was a way to make it work in your favor? Well there is, but you will need to let loose of your own inhibitions before capitalizing on it.

The premise here is that your ex girlfriend was bored with your old relationship. This launched an insatiable urge for adventure and new experiences. Now it doesn’t mean she won’t return to “normal” after getting it out of her system. In the meantime though you should embrace her wild side. The best way to do that is by joining in the fun.

Let me explain here. So your ex goes out to the club, dances her butt off and has a blast. Meanwhile, you spent the night at home playing video games by yourself. Before you go to bed you send her a message on Facebook saying “I miss you.” The next day she’s online chatting with with her friends about the fun they had. Somewhere in there she sees your lame message. What kind of impact are you making here?

Now let’s say you went out with your friends that night instead of staying home. You had to push yourself to do it, but in the end it felt good to have some fun. You stayed out late and never sent that “I miss you” to your ex. The next day your friends comment on your Facebook page about the good times. Your ex sees you’ve been having fun and letting loose. She begins to wonder if you have already forgotten about her.

Do you see how this can work if you play the right cards? If your ex girlfriend has gone rebellious then the best move is to find your own outlet for adventure. Perception is the key here. If she sees you as a loser then she won’t be coming back anytime soon.

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But what if the reason your ex girlfriend left was really no mystery at all? This happens more than people think…maybe she just got bored.

When was the last time you took your girl somewhere different?
How often were you genuinely excited about the date you had together?
Did you notice her telling friends and family about the fun you had?

It is easy to create excitement and curiosity when you put your mind to it. But when you start to get comfortable in a relationship you get lazy. Just remember that not all girls will wait around for you to make the most out of life.

Dating in some ways is not much different than shopping for electronics. The new gadgets and capabilities always seem to catch your eye. The television you bought just three years ago has been replaced on the sales floor with new models that have sharper images, more features, and likely a higher price tag. The price portrays the risk you must take to own the new model. If you can afford it then you might just cast your old one aside.

Complacency may have killed your relationship but it also holds the key to getting your ex back. It will be harder of course. You’ll need to show a commitment to embracing all that life has to offer. If you can do that then she just might come back to you.

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This is really good advice, especially if you went through a rough breakup. It takes a while for negative feelings to simmer down and even longer for the good memories to surface again. Obviously your gut is telling you to beg and apologize to your ex girlfriend, but none of this will work if they still resent you. So you can see why the no contact rule has its place.

Now I like to throw another element into avoiding contact. I believe you need to stay in their subliminal thoughts and this requires some ninja-like tactics. The short version is getting people in your girlfriend’s inner circle to talk about you. Things like where they saw you, who you were with, and what you were up to.

The good news is you are a guy, which means you’ll be relying on girls to do the gossiping;) The thing is though, you need to do something newsworthy in order to attract the gossip. Does this mean hooking up with someone new? I don’t think that is necessary if you think outside the box. In fact, you might be surprised at how much attention you’ll attract by simply having fun.

What about talking to your ex’s friends? This can be a powerful weapon if you use it correctly. The first rule is never talk about your ex! You are guaranteed to get questions about her, which is when you politely decline with “I’m not here to talk about that.” The best part about having no comment is it can really fuel the rumor mill. But back to her friends for a minute, try having a regular conversation with them. I promise that you will throw them all off their rocker when you end your chat without ever speaking your ex’s name.

I’m rambling a bit here but I hope you see the point. Yes, the no contact rule is recommended. However, you can enhance the power of no contact by keeping your name in the news. Find a way to showcase your assets without exposing your true intentions.

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Think about some of the biggest franchises in the video game world: Madden Football, Call of Duty, Halo, etc. Each sells thousands of copies of every time a new version is released. Consequently, thousands of old versions suddenly become almost worthless. They get tossed into a drawer, never to be played again, or they die a slow death as a used game on store shelves.

So what can you learn from the video game industry that will help you get your ex girlfriend back? The lesson here is that we will always love Madden Football, but our excitement gets renewed each year with the latest release. The core game play never changes much, but having new graphics and options gives the “same old game” an addicting new feel.

Picture coming home to last year’s Call of Duty after playing the new one at your friend’s house. Sure it is comfortable because you already know the boards and secrets, but the excitement level is minimal. All you can think about is how to get your hands on the new version.

Your ex girlfriend still likes you for the same reasons you still like last year’s game – it’s a sentimental attachment. The problem is she has seen the new version out there somewhere. He has some of the same characteristics as you…but he offers more features and excitement.

Bottom line: It is time to upgrade yourself if you want to win her back.

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In fact, if your relationship has reached a point where your girlfriend wants to separate, then my advice to you is to agree to the breakup. Your biggest mistake would be to try and persuade your ex to stay in the relationship and not to leave you. This psychological strategy is recommended because it surprises your ex, and makes them begin to wonder exactly what is going on.

Another benefit of mutually walking away is that it eliminates one of the biggest barriers to getting your ex back. This has to do with the law of attraction. As you may already know, humans tend to want the things they can’t have and yet often fail to appreciate the things they already have. You can use this to your advantage by making it appear your ex girlfriend does not have a choice in breaking up with you.

Agree to the breakup, let her go and wish them well. From there you need to stay calm and keep your emotions in-check. Yes you are feeling sad, but you have to find a way to deal it in a way that will help you rekindle your relationship in the future. The best place to start is by thinking about what went wrong and identifying what it is your ex really wants.

I know it sounds like a contradiction to let your ex girlfriend go…only to try a win them back later. But if you can see how valuable this strategy is to the psychology of your relationship then you will have no problem trying to capitalize on what appears to be a bad situation.

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