Here’s the deal… the only way to legitimately get your ex back is through attraction and curiosity. Quoting sad breakup songs on twitter is not attractive, and it certainly leaves no mystery to the way you feel. In short, negative emotional posts get negative results. No one wants to hang out with the depressed girl, so don’t think you are winning any hearts back by reminiscing about better days.

Facebook, twitter and all of the other social networks can actually work in your favor if you use them the right way. Show your ex boyfriend that you are still living life without them. Post pictures of events you attended and tag friends when you laugh about yesterday’s party.

Remember that positive posts get positive results. We all like to read about the successes of our friends on social sites. This is how you gain a strong following of supporters who can improve your online reputation. You don’t have to message your ex to make your point. Even if they un-friend you they will still see you appear on other friends pages. Just make sure what they see will make them miss you!

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Yes, Your Ex Boyfriend Follows Your Social Profile

Most of the things that people buy are designed to help them NOW. Only a small percentage of our purchases are made for the long term. With that in mind, you want to target emotions that will bring immediate benefits to your ex girlfriend.

This includes emotions like…
excitement
surprise
hopeful
anticipation
trust
admiration
serenity
curiosity
ecstasy

These are high-range emotions that can completely change a person’s thoughts and opinions. They are also somewhat addictive, so the more you can provide improves the odds they will come back again.

On the flip side are negative emotions that we all try to avoid…
anger
frustration
fear
disgust
boredom

Obviously if you are trying to sell a “better life” using these emotions you are going to struggle. This is why taking the pathetic approach to getting a girl back never works out.

Prove to your ex that you can make her feel the highest of highs when it comes to emotions. We all want to feel good inside and if you become the provider of good feelings then she will stick around.

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Emotions that Attract Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Since the first words are often the hardest, I’ve put together a short list of innocent conversation starters you can use on your ex boyfriend. Note that the focus of each example is to get your EX BF to open up and communicate with you.

“I thought of you yesterday when I saw [insert a news story]. What did you think?”

“Hey [name]! It has been a while… what have you been up to?”

“I know things were crazy after our breakup – I’m sorry about all that. I just wanted to let you know it is all behind us now and I feel much better about everything.”

“I saw you [insert a recent achievement of theirs]. Congratulations! How does it feel?”

“Can you keep a secret? I just found out that [insert compelling information]. What should I/we/they do about it?”

These ideas should get your mind moving in the right direction. It really doesn’t matter what you say as long as you keep it honest and format it in such a way that your ex will have to respond.

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How to Start a Conversation with Your Ex BF

To help you get started I’m going to list some common things men look for in a partner. See if they match any of the breakup excuses your ex gave you…

Looks
This is one subject that many avoid, but the fact is a lot of men do consider looks an important part of dating. Beauty is subjective and that’s why you need to play off the things you know about your ex boyfriend. An easy way to get a feel for their preference is to think about their favorite celebrities. How do they wear their hair? What kind of style do they have? What roles do they play in movies?

Fun Factor
Are you fun to be around? This is another tough question to ask yourself. Here’s the thing though, dating is about sharing and enjoying each others time. There should be lots of smiles, laughs and memorable moments. If you can’t remember the last time you and your ex laughed out loud together then this is a problem. Of course not everyone is comedian, but it shouldn’t be hard to make your partner smile.

Individualism
An often overlooked secret to successful relationships is a supportive partner. Giving your man the opportunity to explore his dreams is so important. Did you support him when he said he wanted to start a business? How about when he wanted to go out with the guys? We all need to express our individuality, and if that need goes unfulfilled then we will find another outlet.

These three things are only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to your ex boyfriend’s needs. Heck, these may not even represent his needs at all! But one thing is certain… somewhere along the line your ex wasn’t getting what he wanted. Identify and fix those issues if you want another shot with him.

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3 Things Your Ex Boyfriend is Looking For

This can be a golden opportunity for you to make a positive impression on her if you plan accordingly. The hard part is planting the seeds for success long before your time comes. Basically you have two roadblocks in your way… trust and desire. These feelings need to be in place when her new love disintegrates.

How do you nurture these feelings after a breakup? The most effective way is to just be there for her. It sounds easy but of course there is a catch. You have to play it straight without pushing your feelings on her AND stay away from the friends zone. Being honest from the start is your best option.

Sometime after the break up, when things have cooled down enough to call her, tell her that you understand why she needed a break. Be supportive of the break up (even if you have to lie about it). Let your ex know that you still love her but you promise to give her the space she needs. Remind her that if she ever needs anything she can call you anytime… and then walk away.

This simple strategy will rebuild her confidence in you and create some mystery as to where your paths will cross again. Stay in her thoughts by being friendly from a distance. Let her experiment with the new boyfriend. This will be difficult I know, but keep in mind that you are setting yourself up for another chance down the road.

The time will come when your ex girlfriend needs someone to talk to. It might be when her new boyfriend dumps her, or it could be a different life-changing event where she needs to lean on a trusted source. If you do the right things she will look to you for support… and the opportunity to get her back will be there.

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Be Prepared for Her Meltdown

Obviously this doesn’t help you feel any better after being dumped, but what if there was a way to make it work in your favor? Well there is, but you will need to let loose of your own inhibitions before capitalizing on it.

The premise here is that your ex girlfriend was bored with your old relationship. This launched an insatiable urge for adventure and new experiences. Now it doesn’t mean she won’t return to “normal” after getting it out of her system. In the meantime though you should embrace her wild side. The best way to do that is by joining in the fun.

Let me explain here. So your ex goes out to the club, dances her butt off and has a blast. Meanwhile, you spent the night at home playing video games by yourself. Before you go to bed you send her a message on Facebook saying “I miss you.” The next day she’s online chatting with with her friends about the fun they had. Somewhere in there she sees your lame message. What kind of impact are you making here?

Now let’s say you went out with your friends that night instead of staying home. You had to push yourself to do it, but in the end it felt good to have some fun. You stayed out late and never sent that “I miss you” to your ex. The next day your friends comment on your Facebook page about the good times. Your ex sees you’ve been having fun and letting loose. She begins to wonder if you have already forgotten about her.

Do you see how this can work if you play the right cards? If your ex girlfriend has gone rebellious then the best move is to find your own outlet for adventure. Perception is the key here. If she sees you as a loser then she won’t be coming back anytime soon.

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Here are my favorite angles for defusing these situations…

Laugh Along
This is probably the least preferred but it really can lower his guard. If he wants to look cool around his friends then just let him. When the jokes start flying laugh right along with them. Want to take it to another level? Add to the fun by making fun of yourself. Over time this technique will eliminate the “challenge” of putting you down. Obviously this is not for the easily-offended but if you can’t beat ‘em then join ‘em.

Conversation Bombs
No matter how long you dated your ex-boyfriend you likely have some dirt on them. The next time they play the jerk card consider throwing stones right back at them. How does this help you get back together? You might be surprised at the results. One of the big reasons people breakup is because one person is bored with the other. Showing a little spunk can be just the ticket for sparking an attraction.

Disappear
One of the oldest tricks in the book for getting an ex back is what they call “no contact.” The theory here is your ex will never miss you if you are always around. If you don’t like the way they are treating you then a vacation from your ex might be the best solution. If you go this route then you must commit to it. No phone calls, no emails, no contact. In a perfect situation your ex will reach out to you after they’ve had time to reflect on their bad behavior.

Good Luck – Elliot

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