To help you get started I’m going to list some common things men look for in a partner. See if they match any of the breakup excuses your ex gave you…

Looks
This is one subject that many avoid, but the fact is a lot of men do consider looks an important part of dating. Beauty is subjective and that’s why you need to play off the things you know about your ex boyfriend. An easy way to get a feel for their preference is to think about their favorite celebrities. How do they wear their hair? What kind of style do they have? What roles do they play in movies?

Fun Factor
Are you fun to be around? This is another tough question to ask yourself. Here’s the thing though, dating is about sharing and enjoying each others time. There should be lots of smiles, laughs and memorable moments. If you can’t remember the last time you and your ex laughed out loud together then this is a problem. Of course not everyone is comedian, but it shouldn’t be hard to make your partner smile.

Individualism
An often overlooked secret to successful relationships is a supportive partner. Giving your man the opportunity to explore his dreams is so important. Did you support him when he said he wanted to start a business? How about when he wanted to go out with the guys? We all need to express our individuality, and if that need goes unfulfilled then we will find another outlet.

These three things are only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to your ex boyfriend’s needs. Heck, these may not even represent his needs at all! But one thing is certain… somewhere along the line your ex wasn’t getting what he wanted. Identify and fix those issues if you want another shot with him.

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This can be a golden opportunity for you to make a positive impression on her if you plan accordingly. The hard part is planting the seeds for success long before your time comes. Basically you have two roadblocks in your way… trust and desire. These feelings need to be in place when her new love disintegrates.

How do you nurture these feelings after a breakup? The most effective way is to just be there for her. It sounds easy but of course there is a catch. You have to play it straight without pushing your feelings on her AND stay away from the friends zone. Being honest from the start is your best option.

Sometime after the break up, when things have cooled down enough to call her, tell her that you understand why she needed a break. Be supportive of the break up (even if you have to lie about it). Let your ex know that you still love her but you promise to give her the space she needs. Remind her that if she ever needs anything she can call you anytime… and then walk away.

This simple strategy will rebuild her confidence in you and create some mystery as to where your paths will cross again. Stay in her thoughts by being friendly from a distance. Let her experiment with the new boyfriend. This will be difficult I know, but keep in mind that you are setting yourself up for another chance down the road.

The time will come when your ex girlfriend needs someone to talk to. It might be when her new boyfriend dumps her, or it could be a different life-changing event where she needs to lean on a trusted source. If you do the right things she will look to you for support… and the opportunity to get her back will be there.

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Obviously this doesn’t help you feel any better after being dumped, but what if there was a way to make it work in your favor? Well there is, but you will need to let loose of your own inhibitions before capitalizing on it.

The premise here is that your ex girlfriend was bored with your old relationship. This launched an insatiable urge for adventure and new experiences. Now it doesn’t mean she won’t return to “normal” after getting it out of her system. In the meantime though you should embrace her wild side. The best way to do that is by joining in the fun.

Let me explain here. So your ex goes out to the club, dances her butt off and has a blast. Meanwhile, you spent the night at home playing video games by yourself. Before you go to bed you send her a message on Facebook saying “I miss you.” The next day she’s online chatting with with her friends about the fun they had. Somewhere in there she sees your lame message. What kind of impact are you making here?

Now let’s say you went out with your friends that night instead of staying home. You had to push yourself to do it, but in the end it felt good to have some fun. You stayed out late and never sent that “I miss you” to your ex. The next day your friends comment on your Facebook page about the good times. Your ex sees you’ve been having fun and letting loose. She begins to wonder if you have already forgotten about her.

Do you see how this can work if you play the right cards? If your ex girlfriend has gone rebellious then the best move is to find your own outlet for adventure. Perception is the key here. If she sees you as a loser then she won’t be coming back anytime soon.

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Here are my favorite angles for defusing these situations…

Laugh Along
This is probably the least preferred but it really can lower his guard. If he wants to look cool around his friends then just let him. When the jokes start flying laugh right along with them. Want to take it to another level? Add to the fun by making fun of yourself. Over time this technique will eliminate the “challenge” of putting you down. Obviously this is not for the easily-offended but if you can’t beat ‘em then join ‘em.

Conversation Bombs
No matter how long you dated your ex-boyfriend you likely have some dirt on them. The next time they play the jerk card consider throwing stones right back at them. How does this help you get back together? You might be surprised at the results. One of the big reasons people breakup is because one person is bored with the other. Showing a little spunk can be just the ticket for sparking an attraction.

Disappear
One of the oldest tricks in the book for getting an ex back is what they call “no contact.” The theory here is your ex will never miss you if you are always around. If you don’t like the way they are treating you then a vacation from your ex might be the best solution. If you go this route then you must commit to it. No phone calls, no emails, no contact. In a perfect situation your ex will reach out to you after they’ve had time to reflect on their bad behavior.

Good Luck – Elliot

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But what if the reason your ex girlfriend left was really no mystery at all? This happens more than people think…maybe she just got bored.

When was the last time you took your girl somewhere different?
How often were you genuinely excited about the date you had together?
Did you notice her telling friends and family about the fun you had?

It is easy to create excitement and curiosity when you put your mind to it. But when you start to get comfortable in a relationship you get lazy. Just remember that not all girls will wait around for you to make the most out of life.

Dating in some ways is not much different than shopping for electronics. The new gadgets and capabilities always seem to catch your eye. The television you bought just three years ago has been replaced on the sales floor with new models that have sharper images, more features, and likely a higher price tag. The price portrays the risk you must take to own the new model. If you can afford it then you might just cast your old one aside.

Complacency may have killed your relationship but it also holds the key to getting your ex back. It will be harder of course. You’ll need to show a commitment to embracing all that life has to offer. If you can do that then she just might come back to you.

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Maybe She Was Just Bored?

I’ve made the argument before that nothing is impossible when it comes to winning back love. However, you do have to set yourself up for success. That begins with loving life and radiating a sense of confidence, both of which are impossible to do when you dwell on the negative.

It is funny how good relationships can look after getting dumped. We think about all the laughs and adventures we had with our ex. For some reason the negative times never make it into those memories and yet they were still there. Coming to grips with the fact that your relationships wasn’t perfect is one step towards embracing your breakup.

There are plenty of other positive things you can do while waiting for your ex boyfriend to come back around. The best ideas include the goals and interests you have put on the back-burner the past few years. It will take time to get to know yourself again, but it won’t take long to enjoy the experience.

There is always a brighter way to look at things, and doing so will significantly enhance how others look at you. Use the time after your breakup to expand your boundaries. Relationships can confine us as we get trapped into a routine. I have a favorite quote I use when feeling “trapped” by stress and frustration…

“Do one thing every day that scares you.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt

Hope this helps

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This is really good advice, especially if you went through a rough breakup. It takes a while for negative feelings to simmer down and even longer for the good memories to surface again. Obviously your gut is telling you to beg and apologize to your ex girlfriend, but none of this will work if they still resent you. So you can see why the no contact rule has its place.

Now I like to throw another element into avoiding contact. I believe you need to stay in their subliminal thoughts and this requires some ninja-like tactics. The short version is getting people in your girlfriend’s inner circle to talk about you. Things like where they saw you, who you were with, and what you were up to.

The good news is you are a guy, which means you’ll be relying on girls to do the gossiping;) The thing is though, you need to do something newsworthy in order to attract the gossip. Does this mean hooking up with someone new? I don’t think that is necessary if you think outside the box. In fact, you might be surprised at how much attention you’ll attract by simply having fun.

What about talking to your ex’s friends? This can be a powerful weapon if you use it correctly. The first rule is never talk about your ex! You are guaranteed to get questions about her, which is when you politely decline with “I’m not here to talk about that.” The best part about having no comment is it can really fuel the rumor mill. But back to her friends for a minute, try having a regular conversation with them. I promise that you will throw them all off their rocker when you end your chat without ever speaking your ex’s name.

I’m rambling a bit here but I hope you see the point. Yes, the no contact rule is recommended. However, you can enhance the power of no contact by keeping your name in the news. Find a way to showcase your assets without exposing your true intentions.

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Think about some of the biggest franchises in the video game world: Madden Football, Call of Duty, Halo, etc. Each sells thousands of copies of every time a new version is released. Consequently, thousands of old versions suddenly become almost worthless. They get tossed into a drawer, never to be played again, or they die a slow death as a used game on store shelves.

So what can you learn from the video game industry that will help you get your ex girlfriend back? The lesson here is that we will always love Madden Football, but our excitement gets renewed each year with the latest release. The core game play never changes much, but having new graphics and options gives the “same old game” an addicting new feel.

Picture coming home to last year’s Call of Duty after playing the new one at your friend’s house. Sure it is comfortable because you already know the boards and secrets, but the excitement level is minimal. All you can think about is how to get your hands on the new version.

Your ex girlfriend still likes you for the same reasons you still like last year’s game – it’s a sentimental attachment. The problem is she has seen the new version out there somewhere. He has some of the same characteristics as you…but he offers more features and excitement.

Bottom line: It is time to upgrade yourself if you want to win her back.

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If you have been persistent in getting back with your ex then it is likely you have been going about the mission alone. Meanwhile he has been out with another girl, experiencing new things, and undoubtedly comparing you to her. Yes, you can argue that him coming back means his feelings for you were real…but what has this time away done to you?

Some relationships bounce back stronger after a breakup when both sides realize the grass is not always greener. However, the other possible outcome includes feelings of awkwardness and jealousy. How does it make you feel to know he needed a vacation from your relationship? Can you trust him to stick around this time?

In my opinion these are all important questions to consider before setting out to get your boyfriend back. If nothing else, you need to make him work harder to come back. The key here is playing hard to get as a flirting technique. Guys love a good challenge, and the longer you keep him at arm’s length the more certain you can be that he is in it for the long term.

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